Don’t Play The Narcissist’s Game
Why you’re setting yourself up for failure every time you engage
Lately, several Quora questions posed by ex-partners (read victims) of narcissists have been popping up in my inbox.
“Does the narcissist think about me when I’m not around?”
“Does the narcissist stalk me online after he’s dumped me?”
“Will the narcissist contact me again?”
Several times, the questions will be followed with, “I just want to know what’s going on in his head. I’m not going to return to him.”
All of these questions have one glaring flaw in common: They show that the person asking is still completely susceptible to a narcissist’s attack. These questions again put the narcissist and his actions at the forefront. That’s what these emotionally damaged individuals want.
The fact that a person still cares, in whatever crooked way, is the narcissist’s lifeblood.
Just getting away isn’t enough. You have to liberate yourself from caring about what is or isn’t going on in the narcissist’s mind.
I’ve heard the argument: “but how will I be ready to have my face-off with him and win if I don’t know what to expect.”
