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If You Want To Have More Successful First Dates, Change Your Priorities
A new perspective can help you benefit from the process
Dating can be difficult.
It is arguably a huge overall investment of time, energy, and financial resources, at least for those who take it seriously. Each bad date has the potential to leave you just a little more jaded. This is all true, but if you want to find a promising person from the sea of photos and blurbs, you’ll have to put yourself out there.
There is a way to have more successful dates, and it relies on a certain perspective of what “success” means in this realm.
It’s important to keep in mind that people can only meet you from where they are, and you can only reciprocate from where you are. There’s a lot of nuance in each individual’s thinking and life experiences, so trying to be liked can be a futile mission.
If a successful first date is categorically defined as one where there is the promise of either a second date or even a full-blown relationship, then many of your first dates will be straight out failures.
