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The Ritual That Helped Me Process My Heartbreak
All I needed was a printer, paper, and tape.
Having your heart shattered is never easy. It’s one of the hardest, most challenging experiences that will ever come your way.
You develop an intimacy with someone, a closeness unmatched. That in itself required you to first open up and make yourself vulnerable.
When that partner, that friend, who shared in this vulnerability is gone from your life, what do you do? How do you get through it?
I’ve been through this a few times, and I still can’t pick out the worst one. Each relationship was unique with its own rhythm, so each heartbreak also had an element of “freshness” to it.
Years later, some of the stickier memories remain, but the pain is no longer potent. I can guarantee, however, that in my old moments of despair, when I couldn’t see past the person and the relationship I had lost, I couldn’t imagine how it would feel to have truly moved on.
The aftermath of one breakup stands out because of the way I chose to get myself through it.
I was in a long distance relationship while attending a very demanding post-graduate program.
During that time, the stress of piling homework and constant exams took a heavy…
